Altered state

When I first created this blog, I thought it should be all about me. My experience with coming out, my difficulty with it, me, me, me. Lately I’ve realized just how fortunate I am. I don’t have anything to complain about, so I shouldn’t. As I come out to more people, I will document it on this blog, because my first intention was to help others who were struggling with coming out. I think it’s important to hear stories from other people who went through it and emerged just fine. It’s consoling. So that’s why I will continue posting my experiences, but no longer for myself to have an outlet — it’s for others to have something that will hopefully help.

Some of my friends have very extreme feminist views and every time they talk about women’s issues, they become so angry. They talk about feminism as if they its experts, claiming to be able to define it for all feminists. They are completely unwilling to listen to any other viewpoints on the subjects that they rant about. I consider myself a moderate feminist in that I support equality. The way these friends speak about their version of feminism is so close-minded to any other opinions, and they spend most of their conversations condoning everyone else’s ideas as completely wrong — especially when they haven’t received full information. It’s to a point where it almost turns me off to their discussions about it.

I’m not saying my ideas on the topic are right or wrong. I appreciate that they have ideas that they want to share, but I wish they would present them in a less angry, superior way.

And I feel the same way about gay rights. I have my opinions which are pretty obvious, but I’m not going to force anyone to see things the way I do. I’m not going to be angry with people who don’t support homosexuality — some of my greatest friends believe marriage is between a man and woman only, and I respect their beliefs as they are.

These past few months listening to my friends speak about their beliefs as if they are better than anyone else’s has made me even more open-minded, even more willing to understand other people. It’s important. I wish more people would understand it.